My Imperfect Sweater

I've given a lot of thought to the purpose of this blog, in comparison to other blogs that focus on online dating.

This isn't a place where you'll hear me bash my date for not using the salad fork. I won't make you read about my love sickness and how he only texted me 15 times today and not 20.

I admit I'm using this blog as a soul soother, a way to make sense of how to love yourself while being single, a concept that's always been appealing to me yet oddly foreign to the point where I can't grasp it.

"Don't settle" has been a maxim in dating for as long as dating has existed. Match is a good place to learn what you're really looking for in that significant other, who you really are and where you stand in life at that moment. You likely won't settle on somebody because of the overabundance of single bodies at your very disposal.

But when do you get over settling and find someone? Does it happen?

It's all fun and games until someone's feelings get involved. And that happens when you let your guard down and you stop playing the role you assume when you sign up for online dating. In your profile. On your first date. In the exchange of messages. You assume a this glossy, first impression/best behavior image of yourself.

I'm notorious for playing the cute card, the funny and weird card, and the "I'm the blunt journalist" card all at once. That's my way of shielding myself from a.) caring too much b.) being vulnerable c.) getting into another relationship.

It's the same thing with the guys I know I'll wind up dating and I know I'll be looking out for that in my investigative journalist way.

Everyone is looking for some kind of starting point relative to themselves, yet that launching point is stuck somewhere in the grey area. There's that line between "this is fun" and "this is serious." Sometimes it's hard to recognize when to cross that - especially if more than one person is involved.  And that's where things get messy.


I'm getting ahead of myself, but these are thoughts that you grapple with at some point or other - and this is what makes dating online somewhat different than "bar" dating. This is also what I'll be talking about during this stint in blogging.

In my second day of Match, I'm already sizing myself up to the several guys I already plan on meeting. It's the strangest train of thought the luxury of choosing brings.