I've definitely hit some kind of proverbial wall. There's. No. One. On. Match. I must've exhausted what few "good" guys there are. Meaning, none. I even reached into the pits of Match's archaic search yesterday. I clicked through FIFTY PAGES of guys in a 10 mile radius of me. Nothing.
Still talking to Writerman but I'm stupidly banking on that working out.
He apparently got caught up in Boston on Saturday night and maybe forgot that he'd "get back to me" about getting a drink? He emailed me Sunday so it was ok. He keeps looking at my profile and I'm oddly all self-conscious about my pictures and what not.
I think the longer into my subscription I am, the more desperate I'm getting. I'm pretty desperate right now, considering all three dates I've been on have either been terrible or worked out terribly.
Still slightly bummed about Bostonman. Was it my texts? Was it my date plans? Was it me? It doesn't matter much though. Not much time invested into that, but just kind of blindsided me when he unapologetically canceled. It's almost like taking the upperhand and feeling of empowerment away from me. I DO THE CANCELING, BUDDY. I CHOOSE IF YOU'RE GOOD ENOUGH. Not the other way around.
My two friends, woman and man in their 20s, are both on Match, I found. J says he's had no luck and is at the tail end of his subscription. D went out on her first date yesterday. Going to text her now to see how it went.
I also have two other friends, women, who managed to find love on Match. J's current boyfriend was the first - and only - guy she met. They hit it off instantly, bonding over their mutual love of music. L began seriously dating the LAST guy she met before her subscription ran up. She went on some pretty grizzly dates. But now she and her boyfriend are honeymoon status.
Am I going into this with the wrong mentality? The wrong expectations? What ARE my expectations?
If you're reading this right now, I implore you, please leave some feedback. Or, if you're reading this and you're on Match, share your experience in the comment section.
I need some insight here. I need to break down this Match wall before the cement dries under the sun (much like a certain part of my anatomy if I don't find someone soon).
"D went out on her first date yesterday. Going to text her now to see how it went."
ReplyDeleteHaha you did text me, and I told you the reason I needed to bail.
I completely believe in your statement, "I DO THE CANCELING, BUDDY. I CHOOSE IF YOU'RE GOOD ENOUGH."
Once you are determined to hoard all the power in a relationship, it only goes your way! Although that may not heed fruitful mutual love...unless the guy your dating is a masochist.
Oh well, nothings perfect!
Just because you're not finding people doesn't mean your time is up. Don't look at this as some hourglass, with the sand slowly easing it's way into the bottom. It's an adventure, an experience - not a race to the finish.
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